Michael Bungay Stanier’s fascinating book, “The Coaching Habit- Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever” is full of practical tools for managers and leaders in the workplace. Essentially, he illustrates how to get to the heart of the matter quickly and effectively.
It would be a helpful read for anyone in a management role, as well as for those who would like to improve their interpersonal interactions. I have found that his advice is useful in day-to-day conversation, because he teaches the reader how to have a richer exchange.
In a particular section of the book, he discusses how to get to the root of what you want. As he explains, most people do not know what they want. When they try to figure it out, their minds are typically flooded with all of the how questions. We tend to justify why we cannot have what we want before we have gotten really clear on what we want.
He shares that “solution-based” therapy uses a go-to question called the miracle question.
“Suppose that tonight, while you’re sleeping, a miracle happens. When you get up in the morning tomorrow, how will you know that things have suddenly got[tten] better?”
As Stanier writes, “the miracle question helps people to more courageously imagine what better (and much better) really looks like.”
It’s a way to look at the end before the means, he explains. Hence, why the question is so effective.
Before your plans collapse around the how, what would be different in your life right now if you focused on articulating the end picture or destination?
What would be your over-night miracle?
Journal freely without censoring your thoughts. Push any question, doubt, or what if thought out for now. Give yourself the freedom of fully defining and visualizing the end- the miracle.
Let’s be honest, this exercise will be well worth your time.
You owe it to yourself to fully envision all that could be in your life. Give yourself the gift of defining the possibilities. Commit to releasing limiting thoughts and doubts that seek to derail your plans before you even begin.
What’s your miracle? The possibilities are endless!